I've talked a lot about changing our ways, to create a new dynamic for our lives. "WE" are in this together. One cannot rise above, or lift us up, without each other. Its like a bee hive. We must work together with a common goal of changing society so we can have more joy and peace and happiness.
I saw this TED video recently that I think is worth your time to see this woman practicing this kind of thing, after learning to change the way she helped to a new dynamic. Click Here
I am a natural giver. But its hard for me to receive. I think because receiving means opening your heart to someone and letting them in. When I give to you, its safe for me to do that. It makes me feel good to do it, that is my reward. And I helped, which makes me feel good again. But when someone wants to give to me, my guard comes up. Yes I am old and I have been hurt (who hasn't?!) and that creates walls, but on a deeper level, I think its more about personal self worth or lack thereof. On some level I don't feel worthy to receive. I try to be a good person, do my best at whatever I attempt, be there for friends and family - so why am I not worthy in my own mind? Because I don't love myself enough, because being vulnerable scares me, because I criticize myself to death for all I am not, because I strive for perfection which is an impossible thing, because what I think is perfection is completely subjective. So the big question remains, when will I be worthy for love, for happiness, for wealth, for fun, for living my dream? And the opposite is also true. Some people are takers and only know how to take, because to give makes them vulnerable, which they cannot do, or allow.
WOW. How did we do this to ourselves? I think its old karma dragged into this life like a baggage cart, but I also think its environment. The world we live in is so fake. Things that are truly important are not, and things that are silly at best, are revered, like celebrity. The endless search for wealth and success has taken our eye off the ball of being happy and learning, our two only true goals here. If you look at the 1% with billions....and seeing them want to destroy medicare and social security, you have to ask why they are so unhappy that they have to hurt other people when they have so much? Because their great wealth is not giving them joy, and like a gamblers addiction they seek more money hoping that more money will trigger happiness....but of course it never will. Money is a tool, not a state of being. Sharing will give you happiness, not taking. Loving will bring you happiness, not money and power. Friends and family will bring you happiness, not a big bank account. Does having money make you feel secure. Of course it does. But how many houses can you live in, how many cars can you drive, how many trips can you take? When you have a billion dollars I think you can stop worrying about your security and start to live. But on an ordinary level, do you have to buy a new flat screen bigger than the last one every other year? Do you have to have designer purses, and why are they worth so much - for you to carry around someones brand name giving them free advertising and paying them for that honor. Are we nuts or what??
The Universe is sending us a very clear and simple message. "I" didn't send you to earth to work 80 hour weeks, to struggle to pay your bills, to be criticized beyond comprehension, to feel a constant state of pressure to achieve, to have only a few hours a week to be with friends and family, to get little sleep because you have so much to do. I sent you here to love, live and be happy." And the Universe is screaming into our subconscious now that we CAN HAVE THAT, if we shift gears just a little from time to time until we are living a whole new life. Thousands of years ago the seven deadly sins were practiced as they are today. Isn't it time we create the 7 keys to happiness instead. Greed = Sharing; Lust=Connecting; Gluttony=Balance; Laziness=Action; Wrath=Peace; Envy=Goodwill; Pride=Selflessness
Take a day for yourself from time to time. Tell your friends/family you love them. Share (not give or take).
Find something about yourself you really love and focus on it, love it even more and be proud of yourself for being you. God made you out of him/herself. How can you not be worthy? it's hard to love ourselves, but work at it, you deserve to feel good, and happy and full of fun and enthusiasm. Being happy is part of our new state of being....when was the last time you were really happy, carefree and felt light from the burdens of all those "to do's" that just never seem to get done? As Auntie Mame, my all time favorite movie and I suggest you watch it and get a dose of what living is about, says "Life is a banquet, and most poor suckers are starving to death." Time to have fun, drink in love and happiness. It's the new you@!
Yvonne Walker, founder of theAstroHealer.com (formerly Astrological Healing) is an astrologer with 30+ years experience.